It's funny that I ask this question when I'm the one writing a blog hoping that a lot of people will read it, influencing maybe their thoughts, not necessarily their way of thinking so it's quite obvious that social media nowadays have a big influence on our lives.
In these days checking Twitter, Facebook or Instagram I was exploring the idea of how we would function if all these social media disappeared suddenly.
I'm pretty sure it would be shocking!!!!
Since the first time we approached a chat room some decades ago, let's say we started paying more attention to what was in front of us ( monitor) than what was around us ( people) and if on one hand has made a lot of people brave to express their thoughts without the fear to be judge because worse case scenario you could drop the conversation and expand for sure the horizon "talking" with people around the world, on the other hand it has alienated interpersonal relationships between people, I mean face to face relationships.
Our best friend is provided by Apple or Samsung or whatever brand smartphone you have, people don't talk anymore or let's say the world friend is used for whoever is on a contact list of some social media platform but the definition of friend is a little different ("a person whom one knows and with with whom one has a bond of mutual affection).
The consequence then it's that when you meet real people and you are nice and friendly right away people think the worse things ( that you are flirty, that you have your own agenda.....) and this because we are not used to talk, as we were, to real people....here is one example that made me smile not because this 4 people below should be best buddies but there's no chance that they could even remotely start a conversation because probably they are not aware that someone else is around them (this doesn't mean that the goal in life is to start big talks with random strangers on the street but just to make the point!):
At the same time we identify with what happens in this virtual world: it's our reality somehow. We follow
this person or this celebrity and we feel like we know him/her and we believe as true everything we read about them without thinking the obvious: if this person writes all day long on Twitter, for example, we feel part of his/her life but.....does this person work or which kind of work he/she has allowing so much free time to spend on the phone making me know what he/she is doing? ( I want that job!)
Sometimes we are blinded and we don't see the obvious behind. It's probably not only for the ability of the person to deliver the message in the right way but because we want to be blinded because it's convenient for us or it's what we need in that moment. Kind of riding the winning horse: everybody want to be there because it's convenient even if in normal situation we wouldn't even get close to it.
But because social media allow us to be part of each other lives we feel like we own them and if someone shares big news we feel like the news have been delivered personally or that we are part of the news per se like contributors.
I have to be honest I got anxious to write another post because I felt I had to....but why? Even if we want to be detached we can't and not because we are weak, but because this is the life we are living and the era we are living.
Smartphones have made our lives very easy: technically we don't need to leave our houses for anything ( unless you work in the outside world) because grocery, food, or banking, everything can be managed via phone, but at the same time it means cutting on the interpersonal relationship, less contact with human beings. At least we still complain and lose patience when we call a customer service and find ourselves talking on the phone with a pre-recorded voice explaining us options and we demand to talk with real people....we are still human!!!!
I know we live in a world where time flies, lots of things to do in no much time and any help to have things done quickly is more than welcome but then what? It seems like new priorities are to have likes
on our social medias from people that in reality we don't know at all but we value a lot.....I understand that audience create stars and in the same way it create them it destroy them because there's a new kid in town that deserves more attention, but why validation from others is so important to us? It seems that you are a good person depending on how many friends you have on Facebook or followers on Twitter ( how many times we have heard people shockingly complaining that they have been unfriended
by so and so considering that the measurement of what friendship is!).
It's a tough world!!!!
I think that human beings always looked historically for guidance or a leader and back in the days people used to listen to what was offered and advertised by tv or radio hosts but the creation and explosion of social medias changed radically the source of inputs we are exposed to, and now these sources are almost unlimited.
There's no hierarchy or structure in anything anymore, no official voice to follow besides the politically correct I mean. Or let's be clear there is an official voice to follow but every week it changes according to the trend or fashion of the moment.
I'm an example with this blog because everybody is a blogger, everybody is a food expert, everybody is a musical critic, everybody is a head coach of a team in every sport.....is it because everything is becoming flat or we are becoming very lazy because everything we need is "a click away" or everything is so standardized that if you say something different it can't be accepted risking to be labeled as radical or racist or ignorant or whatever word you want to use in this contest? But thinking a little bit, how could I tell that for sure what I say it's true, it's just my humble opinion that you can agree with or not, I could I tell you that this food or this other is great, it's just my taste... so who decides what is right or wrong?
Example: years ago you could read everywhere that eggs where bad for you and coconut oil was fat and still bad for you and now instead it seems these are the golden recipes recipes to live healthy (besides the believes about meat vs vegetarians): did we ever eat well or at this point what should we eat because I'm sure in couple of years some breaking news will come up again.....
Mostly social media has this decisional power for us. In my opinion, if a personality is described as sweet we all think that but somehow I still feel people have some doubts about it but they are not aware that trusting your gut sometimes is the best detector.
As an example I can tell a story: years ago after I read on various magazines that a singer was phenomenal so I went to listen and honestly I wasn't impressed at all and during the show I could sense the audience was clapping without great enthusiasm like "we clap because we read you are great but we are not totally sold"
but at the end of the show you could only hear how amazing so and so was that night....well, consciously they went with the flow but subconsciously they knew.
I always invite people to form their own opinion about things and don't take as the absolute truth what they read, of course whoever writes about things has a solid and strong opinion but should be aware of the responsibility they have especially if the followers
are like true believers. This doesn't mean that every person should write "this is my opinion and take it for what it is"
or "I'm not a nice person by the way even if you think I live in Olympus
" but somehow when you put words out we all are responsible toward the recipient of our words.
You, kind reader, could think at this point "ok what's the point of this post, we know all these things you are saying
" and my reply is that I know you know but I'm just wondering if we are conscious that we think we are active on social medias because we post, twit etc. but truth is that we are passive instead because in the moment we are on a social platform we HAVE to do so and so and as I said earlier we even don't know why we do it: to share our thoughts? to let people know what we are doing? to involved more people ( strangers) in our life and then complain about lack of privacy and/or judging or be judged even if we say we don't care?
It's kind of a diabolic loop that control what we do, we think we are free but at the end we have to follow strict rules because we want to be popular, we don't want to upset people, we want to be liked
....After all Big Brother it's not a new thing.
So result? YES social medias are a big part of our lives: what is up to us is to decide who control who....remember the devices are in OUR hands, we are not the devices ;)
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Ciao for now!